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I think I am gay. I have a best friend and I really Answered

I think I am gay. I have a best friend and I really want to kiss her. She is really pretty and really nice. I have a boyfriend though and I don't know what to do. I am 16. Please Help?



Hi I know where you are coming from, I have and will always love my best friend that was, unfortunately I have lost contact with her because of an girlfriend. I was married for 11 years to a bloke who i adored and we had a child together, but that couldn't hold back how i really felt, and took me another two years to admit how I really felt. x so hang in there and just discover yourself x

pictures please! only joking, but with a user name like yours, have you already made your mind up? good luck

From what I have read, it is normal to question your sexual preferences at some point in one's life. A lot of people go through it. Just don't freak out, and don't make a decision on the spot.

I think my answer to you over here is still applicable.

Does whether you are gay really make a difference here? I think the "high school romance" part is the key issue. A high school romance with either person is not likely to last long. That's not to say that they are bad, but their frequently short duration is just part of their nature. On the other hand, a solid friendship could last for the rest of your life.

Then there's the issue of their feelings. If you were the boyfriend, what would you do about getting cheated on, being dumped, and/or having your relationship unexpectedly "expanded"? If you were the best friend, what would you do about your relationship taking this surprising (and possibly scary) turn?

I do not think there is an easy solution here, but be sure to take into account the way both your friends see the world.

If she really is your best friend, you could try being honest with her.

When you're alone, tell her that you're in a confusing place emotionally, explain that you'd appreciate her help to get through it, one way or another, and be clear what you want to do.

Maybe she'll say yes, maybe she'll say no, but you will never know unless you ask.

Don't tell you boyfriend yet, though. At 16, there is a strong chance that he will get entirely the wrong message, and try and join in. Wait until you are clear in your head which way you are going to go before you talk to him.

Whatever happens with your friend, if you are gay, you will need her support and understanding over the coming days / weeks / months until you, your family and your friends are used to the idea, so even if she says no and reacts badly, do your best not to fall out with her.